Chances Are

I thought I’d take a break from writing about our vacation to talk about chances, fate and destiny.

You know, a light-weight topic.

I was inspired by this post from Caitlin at Healthy Tipping Point. She talks about all the different paths our lives could have taken if only one thing or another had been different. She was inspired by the movie “The Adjustment Bureau“. There was also a movie with Gwyneth Paltrow that touched on this called “Sliding Doors

To be honest with you, this topic fascinates me and I think about it quite a lot. There are so many things that happen in life of which I had NEVER expected. My college roommate used to say “If you’d asked me to bet that ____ would happen, I’d have lost the best!”


Here’s one small example –  3 years ago I was drafted on a co-ed volleyball team. I knew no one on the team. One of the gals was also named Sara and was new to the city. We got along well on the court but didn’t hang out much otherwise. I was honestly quite jealous of her because she’s a great player and has a magnetic personality that draws people to her. I wanted to BE her! When that session was over we went our separate ways on to different teams. The next summer I ran in to her at a pick up volleyball game and it just so happened I needed a new gal for Team Trader. She joined the team, we started hanging out and now we’re close friends! Had I bet on that 3 years ago, I would have lost money!

I often times think “what if” this or that had been different. What if I had gone out for the high school volleyball team? I wanted to but was chicken and never did. If I had, I might have become a great player and gotten a college scholorship. Maybe I would have gone on to play in the Olympics! But then again I would have had much different friends in school, gone to a different college and my life would be totally different. Would it still have been a good life? Probably. But I wouldn’t have met CJ and I wouldn’t have Isabella.

Or would I? If something is truly “meant to be”, would CJ and I have found each other anyway? I guess we’ll never know!

As it turned out, I met CJ at a social event. He was at the door greeting people and I was there with my current boyfriend. He actually made a comment out how “hot” CJ was and no wonder I wanted to come to the event. My ex and I broke up shortly after that. Then I started attending support groups to help me work through some emotions about it and CJ was there. We became friends. Later, my friend Jason invited me to a pick up volleyball game and CJ showed up. We started hanging out and a year later I asked him out. The rest is history.

What if I hadn’t gone to the support group? What if I had told Jason “no” to the volleyball game? What if I hadn’t had the courage to ask CJ out?

What I do know is that I don’t regret any past decisions in my life. Some were good, some were bad. But all of them led me to the place I’m at today, which is a pretty good one. I have an amazing husband, a beautiful daughter, an awesome dog, a successful career, and a loving family. No I’m not a millionaire or an Olympic gold medalist but I don’t need to be. My life is perfect the way it is.


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Team Trader Thursday – The Pics

Well guess what – volleyball was canceled tonight! Boo!! Hiss!! Turns out the courts were double booked or something like that. Whatevs, talk to the hand. But it worked out because that gave us gals more time to chat, eat and drink at Granite City!

The dinner was actually kind of poetic in a way and ended up mirroring our season. We started out with 11 people who were going to come and then throughout the day, one by one, they dropped like flies. We went from 11 to 8 to 6 to 4. Yes, that’s right, there were only 4 of us die-hard Traderettes that ended up at the “last-night-of-volleyball-celebration-dinner”. We had lots of fun though – and the pics to prove it!

So here is the first one – don’t we look all cute?

Courtney, Sara, me and Cindy F.

Now the second one was supposed to be a silly one of us each striking a different volleyball pose – you know, one person setting, one hitting, one passing, etc. Well as I was trying to explain this to the girls, the waitress decided to keep taking pictures!

So we have this one…

Court and Sara look good, and Cindy would too if she wasn’t blurry. I however look like I am pleading with the girls to indulge me and do a silly volleyball pose. “Please? Come on, it’ll be fun! It’s a Team Trader tradition!”

And then there’s this one:

“Look, I’ll show for you how this concept will work. See how I’m pretending to set? Now won’t you guys try it? What? You won’t? Well too bad! I’m the captain and I say we’re gonna do it dammit! Drop and give me 15!!!”

I think the other girls were just laughing that the waitress was out of control at this point, as if her fingers were moving independently from her body and continuing to take pictures.

And finally we get this one:

See, isn’t that cute? It was worth all that we had to endure to get there, never mind that I had to break out the threats.

So that’s it. Volleyball ended on a down note in the sense that we didn’t get to play. But at least we still got to hang out. And in 3 weeks, we’ll be back on the court, ready to dominate!

P.S. No, I’m not wearing Green Bay Packers colors on purpose. We all have Team Trader t-shirts that we were planning to wear tonight. I didn’t want to have to rush and change my whole outfit when we got to the gym so I wore my TT shirt underneath my sweater all day at work. I thought the yellow and green worked but apparently it just made me look like an overzealous cheesehead. Should have worn black over it. At least then I would have been an overzealous Steeler, which I am.

Team Trader Thursday

Tonight is the last night of women’s volleyball for the Fall 2010 session (tear). But the good news is that we’ll be back and playing again in just a few short weeks, when the 2011 session starts.

Team Trader decided to do it right and send this session out with a bang. We’re all meeting up for dinner/drinks beforehand and then going to play. And you know what? The gym we’re playing at allows alcohol to be brought in. MUHAHAHAHAHA!!! This could be an interesting night…

This has actually been an interesting season. Here’s a recap of some of the oddities that have plagued Team Trader over these last 4 months:

  1. We lost Marianne right off the bat because she moved to Denver. So we started off with a team of 7 that included: Sara, Courtney, Sybille, Cindy B., Cindy F., Katie, and me.
  2. Before the first game even commenced, we found out that Katie couldn’t play. She is pregnant, which we knew, but thought she’d be able to play for a little while longer. No dice. So now we’re down to 6.
  3. Courtney had to travel for the first 4 weeks. Now we’re down to 5 and had to find a sub each one of those weeks.
  4. She got back and Sybille got sick. At first it seemed to be a cold or something. Eventually it led to surgery and having her spleen removed. 
  5. At this point I had to get more permanent players so Mandy and Megan were added. They decided to alternate early and late nights so when we played at 6:30, Mandy would come. When it was at 8:15, Megan would play.
  6. On the early  nights, we only had one setter (yours truly) so we started running a 5-1 offense. I haven’t been the setter on a 5-1 in  years so it was scary and exciting at the same time. And what a workout! But it was really fun and I hope to do more of it next session, or perhaps even a 6-2.
  7. One night Mandy brought her kids and they made signs that said “Go Team Trader!” It was super cute and awesome to have a cheering section!

Hopefully that’s the end of the craziness and we can stabilize this next session. Sybille will be back and Megan is staying on as our 7th player (those of you who play regularly will know that it’s always a good idea to have a built-in sub on the roster). It’s sad to wind down one session but then again, a break is nice too.

I will take pics tonight and post them tomorrow. Cheers to the women of Team Trader!

Team Trader Thursday!

I am seriously jonesing for volleyball. I need my fix man!

Team Trader hasn’t played in 3 weeks. We had a bye last week and the week before they canceled it so another league could use our gym. This means a couple of things for tonight’s games:

  1. Most of us will be rusty. Back in the day I played vb 2-3 times a week, which of course helps keeps the skills sharp. But, with a child now, I can only commit to one night a week. Most of the other girls only play once a week as well. Sooo….not playing at all for 2 weeks means our mad skillz will take a big of a nosedive tonight. But, it won’t take us long to get back in to it! We’re rock stars after all!
  2. We will all be sore tomorrow. 2 hours of running, jumping, rolling, diving, squatting, raising/lowering your arms, and hitting the ball will do that to a person.
  3. We have a lot to catch up on so there will be much chatter on the court.
  4. We will have a blast!

I’ve still got this pesky virus that’s going around and taking my family down one by one. But I’m getting better each day. Because of being sick, I haven’t worked out AT ALL in over 3 weeks. That’s like, unheard of for me. So I will be extra sore and tired tomorrow. It’s worth it though.

Go Team Trader!!